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How to Make Someone Fall in Love with You or at Least Like You a Lot
Imagine, for a moment, your ideal partner. He or she may not have been part
of any of the relationships you have experienced so far.
On the other hand, the person you imagine may be your spouse or significant other. The "who" is not important for this exercise. Now imagine that ideal person’s face as you want it to look. Does it have a smile or a scowl?
If you said it has a scowl, make an appointment with me fast! And not because
I wear a scowl, but because you need help - especially if you want to
make that special someone fall in love with you!
What Makes Someone Fall In Love With You?
Most of us want the significant relationship in our life
to be someone who genuinely smiles a lot, whose eyes sparkle, who is filled
with
fun energy,
and who is someone
we consider to be "good company".
Of course, this is not enough foundation for building a lifelong
healthy relationship, but it is a good start if you want to make
someone to fall in love with you. It is the ability to smile, to have
fun and to involve others
that help to attract the opposite sex.
Children Know How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With Them
Smiling is one of the first things we do as conscious human beings – beings
who are born with a sense of humor. An infant smiles, perhaps
without knowing why, to say that it is non-threatening. It is a gesture
of reassurance. It says "I
will not hurt you, and you should not hurt me. I am of good humor."
What works for us as infants also works as adults. If you're a man who
wants to make a woman fall in love with you, or a woman and you
want to make a man fall in love with you, what is the first thing you'd
do
when your eyes
meet?
They smile – perhaps shyly, perhaps hardly noticeably, maybe it’s just a slight facial twitch. But the message is clear: "I like what I see and I hope you will like me." (In other words, "I want to make you fall in love with me.") It is the initial tentative step in any friendly relationship.
Of course, one smile does not guarantee another in return.
You might get a scowl. That’s a definite message
to keep away. Smiles and scowls are primordial signals
of encouragement or warning
employed by all mammals
and
crossing all
language barriers.
Take a dog, for instance. If it is pleased to see you,
it has a grin from ear to ear and its tail wags crazily.
Bared
teeth,
on
the other
hand, leave
no
mistaken impression that you are welcome. One false
step and you’ll need a patch
in your trousers. We don’t speak "doggish", though the language
is clear.
Smiles and scowls avoided fights to the death in prehistoric times – and sometimes do today.
Smiling Is A Precursor To Make Someone Fall In
Love With You!
So you gaze across a crowded room, smiling for
three hours? Clearly, the smile is just the
beginning, the message that
says: "I am safe to approach," and
implicitly asks the question: "Are you?" An answering
smile means at least that there is no danger. Now, you need to
follow up in some appropriate
fashion.
"I’m in love with you, will you marry me?" is clearly not
appropriate. In this respect, we are not like
dogs. There is a protocol or acceptable
behavior to follow. The next step is to get
the other person to like us, and to find
out if we like them. Go back to what you
want your ideal partner to be like. One
of the things most of us want in a relationship
is fun - and my special prescription, The Fun Factor is the best way to learn
the fun
attitude that attracts mates
in droves!
That does not mean we want to listen to corny
jokes all day. It means pleasurable activity,
and the
prospect of such activity
in
a loving
relationship.
After the smile, that first approach needs
to be relaxed and to relax the other
person. Will
talking
about yourself
make
someone fall in
love with
you?
Hardly, if that’s how you open a conversation. Do this too
soon and you could destroy a potential relationship before it even
begins. Why should
the
other person be interested in you, what you do and what you think?
Ask about the other person? That’s better. That person’s
life is more likely to be of interest to them than yours is. And
when the other
person
does the talking, they think you are a great conversationalist.
But it’s still too early for that. Starting with a serious
conversation is usually a mistake, though it is frequently made.
Becoming Childlike Is The First Key To
Make Someone Fall In Love With
You.
Why should forming a new relationship
be so difficult when it was so
easy for us
early in our lives?
If you need proof
of how
easy
it was,
watch
two infants
able to crawl but not yet able
to talk. Listen to the gurgles
they
make to
one another,
and
the squeals
of
delight. They
have not
yet learned
embarrassment, shyness, timidity,
to be afraid of rejection. No
one told
them yet
to fear
others,
that some would not be friendly
or welcome them.
They can’t talk, but they already know how to have fun with
each other. Translated into adult terms, they are saying "I already
know how to make someone fall in love with me."
Watch them when they are four.
They will play together for
hours, chattering
away,
inventing
games with
seemingly unlimited
imagination.
They form
attachments and real friendships.
No one taught them how. They
just let
their curiosity
take over. They still have
little experience with embarrassment.
They don't have
to be told how to "make someone fall in love" with them!
No one has explained relationships, they simply happen naturally.
You know what? There are
no rules other than being
natural
and
having fun.
If you think you
have to make
someone fall
in love with
you,
in fact the
problem is that you have
fallen out of love with
yourself
and
probably with life!
Only when a child enters
school, where rules and
discipline have to be
enforced to maintain
order,
does innocence
start to give
way to
the realities
of a
world in which not all
is
pleasant
and fun. Only then, as
a rule, are they taught
not
to speak to strangers
because strangers can be dangerous.
The Second Key To Make Someone
Fall In Love With You
... Become
The Person
You
Desire
The same is true now.
There is no cookie-cutter
set
of rules
for making
someone fall
in love with you.
What
works for
one couple
does not work
for another.
But there are some
constants. One of
them is to use
The Fun Factor
to be
a fun-loving
person, remembering
the simplicity and
lack of
deviousness of
small children.
An appropriate sense of fun and good humor can be the trigger for that magic spark that can turn into love.
When you have revealed
a sense of humor
that is attractive
to the other
person,
you will
have the
opportunity
to show that
you are
also a caring
person,
kind-hearted,
loving, attentive, good
parent potential,
protective and
all the other
things in whatever
combination is
attractive to
your potential
partner. And
you will
be able
to find out the
same things about them.
Then, you
can become
more committed.
But first, you
will have to
pass the
fun test.
Is there
still
a small child
in you?
Of course, when you are still heartbroken, or afraid of more heartbreak, the idea of someone falling in love with you can actually be frightening.
That fear - along with your damaged self esteem - will not only guarantee that someone will definitely not fall in love with you, it will keep the rejections coming and just generate more fear and lower self esteem!
The good news is that it's more easily put right than you might imagine. I have covered this in depth in my program "How To Trust Love Again When Your Heart's Been Broken" and I guarantee, once you've read through it and used the processes in there, you'll be laughing and smiling in ways you've probably forgotten you could!
"How To Trust Love Again When Your Heart's Been Broken" comes from years of professional training as a psychotherapist and profound personal experience. It also comes from the heart - as any book on love should.
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